I’m willing to bet that you say thank you on a regular basis. Thanks to someone holding a door open, thanks to someone for passing you an item, thanks for someone letting you go at a junction. However, when was the last time you said thank you to yourself?
There are so many things that you do for yourself that you probably don’t even take the time to acknowledge. Here are some examples:
- Thank you for taking the time to feed yourself
- Thank you for wearing clothes that keep you warm
- Thank you allowing yourself a moment to watch your favourite show
- Thank you for giving yourself some time to go outside for some fresh air
I bet that you may not take the time to thank yourself, but you’ll take the time to critique or question yourself instead! Why?
How we talk to ourselves it important. I mean, super, important.
We want to be right, I mean we all like to be right. Why? It feels great! So we looking for things that reinforce our beliefs. Let me give you an example. You might think that you are useless at maths. Therefore every time anything maths related comes up you think oh I can’t do that, I remember that time when I miscalculated and got the answer wrong. Every time you make a maths related error you think ‘yep that’s because I’m rubbish at maths’. However, there will be times when you will get an answer correct, but of course, you think that’s just down to luck…because you believe you’re rubbish at maths.
By always looking for the things that reinforce your belief, rather than challenge it, you create a cycle. You thoughts lead to words, which lead to actions i.e. avoiding anything you have to use maths. These actions become a habit, and part of your character and this impacts upon the choices you make. Such as a job you may take or a situation you may avoid. All because you are providing fuel to your negative belief, rather than being kind to yourself and allowing yourself to acknowledge the wins too.
Therefore, I want you to be kind to yourself. Acknowledge the wins, say thank you to yourself for all the small things – and challenge your negative thoughts.
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